"...full of love, leading to a curious kind of wisdom … the cycle reveals a progression towards a sort of resurgence. … This is a chronicle, not of recovery, but of accommodation, told with tenderness."
"If ever there was a poignantly moving book in the avalanche of new books about life and death then it is Kay van Dijk's Can I Let You Go, My Love? The love story that emerges through the poems and continues after the death is a sublime tribute to the human capacity to cope with grief, as well as a tribute to the poetry that expresses these feelings in a more touching and striking way than a narrative account could. The poems … are … extremely moving and can be of great support to those in a comparable situation, travelling along this same lonely road."
Simon Vinkenoog, Dutch author and poet, in Bres, Oct/Nov '97
"For those who are suffering from loss and grief, these poems will be of great assistance to the healing process."
Gerald G. Jampolsky MD
"I was deeply touched by this very personal and healing journey. That one can overcome a deeply felt personal loss, has been expressed in a very touching, intimate, vulnerable, direct and hopeful way. I am convinced that the reading of these poetic sketches will support all those that have to travel this same long and lonesome road."
Pieter Sluis MD, Chairman, Dutch Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation
"The ability to face emotion and transcend it in the minimum of words – a thing so few of us have the courage to do – was most poignant and inspirational. I look forward to recommending it."
Ruth Oliver, bereavement counsellor
"I read it whilst en-route to give a lecture to some Nurses, carers of the dying, and I realised just how important the contents were ... I will be delighted to recommend it to all my teaching groups and workshop participants ... I'll most definitely add this wonderfully alive heart opening story to the suggested reading lists."
Phyllida Templeton, bereavement counsellor
"The poetry would be very comforting to the bereaved at a difficult time in the healing process; a genuine moving book."
CRUSE Bereavement Care
"A jewel of a book! The story is written so directly from the heart that it takes your breath away. It does not describe the essence of bereavement, it IS the essence of it. You feel the grief, the loneliness, the despair and the struggle so intensely that the book is almost thrilling – you ask yourself 'Will Kay be able to survive this difficult loss?' For those who have experienced such a loss, this book will be a source of great recognition. A wonderful book that I can recommend to everyone."
Len Kapteijn-Snijders, therapist and bereavement counsellor, in Shanti Nilaya (magazine of the Dutch Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation)